Two Dozen Questions To Ask Those You Love This Valentine’s Day
I must be honest… I used to think Valentine’s Day was a bit silly. In some ways, I still do. I don’t want Caleb to simply feel loved and appreciated one day a year. I want him to know with certainty that I will always think the most of him, cherish his companionship, and admire his hard work for our family. I don’t want to allow my appreciation and intentional acts of affection to grow stagnant in the remaining eleven months of the year. I hope the same for my family and friends – that they feel loved, cherished, and appreciated every day of the year, not February 14th alone. (Side Note: Do you know how much money is spent on Valentine’s Day each year? Google it. It’s silly.).
Of course, I do still use Valentine’s Day as an excuse to celebrate and to make use of my love for hospitality, but it wasn’t until last year that I really grew to appreciate the idea of a yearly relationships check-in. A ministry team I served on while in college emphasized frequently the importance of evaluating my upward (love of God), inward (love of self), and outward (love of others) relationships. That is, how well or completely am I loving God? Is my view of myself biblically faithful, or am I under or over-prioritizing my relationship with myself? How compassionately and selflessly am I loving others? Introspective questions like these help us to effectively determine areas of needed growth, and regular self-checks enable us to remain mindful of our genuine progress toward Christ-likeness.
I will always believe in the power of a good question, and fully embrace opportunities to ask them. Why not redeem the silliness of an over-indulgent and over-expensive holiday like Valentine’s day by reorienting our celebrations to include intentional relationship check-ins? Here is a list of 20 questions to help you get started! These 20 questions address your relationship with God, your relationship with self, and your relationship with others. After you have answered the questions yourself, I challenge you to use them in conversation with those you love (your spouse, a friend, a co-worker, a family member, etc). Trust me, these questions are deep, but I truly believe the information you gain will serve your personal growth, even if you aren’t proud of your answers. Let these 20 Valentine’s Day inspired questions help you to better love God, rightly love yourself, and intentionally love others in 2022.
24 Questions To Ask this Valentine’s Day
*Questions were originally used as a group activity. Some Q’s may need to be reworded when asked of yourself or asked of others.
Are there any insecurities that you are struggling with right now? If so, how can I help you through them?
What is one thing that you love or appreciate about yourself?
Who has helped you understand the love of God most in your life?
Name 2-3 reasons why you love being a female (or Name 2-3 reasons why you love being a male).
How can I pray for you? (And then pray for them)
Who do I need to commit to praying for this week/month/year?
Tell me about your closest friends. What do you love about them?
What do you love most about the season of life you are in right now?
Are you longing for anything?
Is there anything in your life that you “love” but should not? What do you need to change?
How can I serve you better? How can you serve others better?
Finish this sentence. I feel loved when…
Using one word only, tell me what you appreciate about three people in your life.
Describe a time when you truly felt God’s love for you.
What is one thing you can do this year to improve your relationships with your friends, your family, and your church?
For what in life do you feel most grateful for?
What is one thing you could do this year to deepen your love for God?
Who is the most loving person you know? Why?
Are there any individuals in your life right now that you are not loving well? What is one thing you could do to improve this relationship?
Is there anyone in your life that needs encouragement? If so, how will you commit to encouraging them?
Name one neighbor in your life that you interact with regularly but do not know well. What is one tangible way you will love them this week?
Have I put my needs above the needs of others this week?
What do you prioritize most in your day to day life?
Where in Scripture have you seen the love of God displayed recently?
Check out this week’s episode of The About her Podcast, Episode 14: The Art of Hosting Meaningful Gatherings with Ashlyn Carter for more Valentine’s Day Hospitality inspiration.
